10 Ways To Find Your Zen

Whether you need a moment to de-stress, want more quiet moments in your life, or want some health benefits – taking time to find your zen is easier than you think.  Not only is it easy, but it’s necessary!

Life is so busy. In order to appreciate and enjoy it, or even to get through the rough patches, we need to find the moments that take us away from it all.  Moments that nurture our spirit and quiet the chattering in our minds.

The first step is to make yourself a priority!  Let go of any guilt you have for taking moments of self-care.  Remind yourself it’s important for your well-being.  Start minimally if needed and work your way up to a daily practice.  It doesn’t take long before it becomes a habit, and even better, something to look forward to.

There are so many ways to find “zen” or create it.  Here are my personal top ten!

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2) This leads to practicing gratitude.  Feeling grateful and saying you are grateful opens up a whole new world. When you take time to send out that grateful energy into the world, it returns to you tenfold.  Learn to be grateful for all moments, not just the good ones. The bumps in life are also lessons to be grateful for.

3) It can be really tough to quiet the mind but regular meditation practice can help.  Find the best way to meditate, for you! I sometimes like to lay down with headphones and follow a guided meditation. Other times I enjoy the mediation space I created in my room, or I will simply sit on my swing in the backyard and pat my dog.  However you can find ways to quiet your thoughts. It is natural that our minds will wander while we meditate but just recognize it and go back to your focussed place.

4) I recently discovered the benefits of burning resin.  The smoke of frankincense is used to quiet a racing mind, making it useful for meditation. Myrrh can also be used to still the mind and align the energy centers of the body. These can burn anytime in your home.  I am currently burning some as I type this!

5) Creativity helps!  I love to crotchet.  I don’t make much more than a scarf or a blanket but it’s the simple act of taking time to do something you can focus on in quiet.  Something that you can enjoy, that isn’t stressful. I am also an artist, and because of the type of art I do, I can actually delve into a form of meditation while drawing that requires no effort. For others – I can imagine dance being amazing for this, or a potter becoming one with the clay.  Try something new, something that can take you to that place of complete zen.

6) Exercise.  Yoga would be the first thing that comes to mind as it encompasses the body, mind, and spirit.  Tai Chi would also be great for this. Even a bike ride or a run. When we move our bodies we allow energy to move and flow through us. We also can release that “feel good” dopamine or “happy” serotonin from our brain.

7) Tune up your energy centers!  Otherwise known as chakra balancing.  There are seven energy centers that start at the base of the spine and run to the top of your head. When these centers are blocked it can stop us from living fully, and can even cause illness.  Each energy center has a specific function that is related to a specific emotion.  I once asked my energy worker how often I should have this tuneup done and she replied “you will just know.”  The more time you take for yourself, the more in tune you will become with your body and what it needs.

8) Massage or reflexology are more than helpful with pain or discomfort, they also can produce feelings of caring, comfort, and connection. How nice does it feel to have someone care for you?! Sometimes we are so busy caring for others that we forget how much we also need to be cared for.

9) My other all time favourite thing to do that makes me feel completely grounded and grateful is the simplicity of rocking a baby to sleep.  Watching them doze off while you offer warmth, connection, and a hypnotic rocking motion. Then to enjoy the complete peace on their face and the slow, quiet breaths they take.

10) Lastly, sometimes we just need a break from everyday life and this is when travel can give us that take me away moment.  I have heard it said sometimes you need to go away to miss home but I also think going away helps you find a safe, sacred home in yourself.

I’m sure there are a thousand other ways to find and add zen moments into your life. No matter what you choose to do or practice, doing so with an intention of caring for yourself will make all those moments (big or small) zen.


Article written by Sherry Sobey



Spring Cleaning Your Mind

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I always love a new year & I especially love Spring! It’s like a fresh page in a notebook, a chance to really think about what I would like my story to look like.

Of course things don’t always go as planned, which is also about perspective, but I do think it’s good to spend some time outlining possible changes, new directions, reflect on what has worked, what hasn’t, and set some goals.

Visualizing the life you want is part of the process! You have to know what you want in order to achieve it. Vision boards or even journals are great tools to use! Writing out words, statements, quotes, and adding photos to vision boards, then taking time to sit with them, keep those ideas alive, remind yourself what you really want out of life, or even better help change some belief systems that don’t serve you well.  This is an area that I am constantly working on!

Our belief systems are created by all the things we see, hear, and experience. Unfortunately some beliefs can have very negative impacts in our life.  Self image, self-worth, personal potential, and how we perceive and accept others are all impacted by our belief system.  When we hear a new idea, or another person’s opinion, we filter that  information based on our beliefs and only absorb the information that best matches our own belief system. Learning to open yourself to new beliefs, and new understandings helps in accepting others and ourselves.

Meditation can be a great way to learn to focus as well as open yourself to new possibilities, and entertain new beliefs.

My friend, Laura Allard of Plain Jane Ink here in Winnipeg, offers life coaching as well as meditation classes.  I have asked her to explain how meditation can help us understand what we really want, need, and how to stay focused on those possibilities.

“Thanks ever so much Sherry, I love the topic of this post!
One of my favorite Meditation Mentors, Sharon Salzberg has been known to say that it is a brave person who adopts a meditation practice, and these words could not be more true!
A regular Meditation can at once be an unveiling and unraveling of our true authentic selves, a way to ground and root us in who we are at our very core.
When we undertake sitting with our thoughts daily, we question what our minds tell us and decipher what feels right, what resonates with us right inside our hearts.

This opens us up to deeper and further reaching visualization and connection to our core beliefs as we acknowledge and accept the new standards that are being unearthed in us. It puts smiles on our faces and joy in our hearts as we finally see and feel what is right and true FOR OURSELVES…not society, not our parents or spouses or best friends, US….how beautiful is that?”
Thanks Laura, I especially connect with the understanding of when we take the time to be still, to be quiet within ourselves, so much can be revealed!
I also have recently  been introduced to my ego. Now your ego is not just the voice inside that tells you all the great things about yourself, it’s also your belief system.  The ego is the constant chatter in your head that drowns out all the other parts of ourselves.  We spend so much time listening to our ego that we can end up missing out on other perspectives and experiences.

I have another wonderful friend Dr. Karen Litinsky Mpsy.D. who has created a program called the “Ego-less System”.  Through this program you can learn how to recognize and then turn down the volume of your ego.  I’ve asked Karen to explain a little more about the program and what you can gain by learning this process.

Here is what Karen had to say:

Despite the common interpretation of the narcissistic maucho-man “ego” definition – the ego really is much more than that. In fact, everyone has an ego – even those humble sweet folk. Let me take a moment to explain; the ego is your ME Factor that is based on all of your conditioning that translates your experience of life into thoughts…and lots of thoughts – non-stop thoughts actually. And we have become so accustomed to these endless thoughts that most people don’t even realize that they are not their thinker.

EgoYou are not your thoughts. You are not your ego.

When we start to grasp this magnificent reality, we naturally un-velcro ourselves from the limitations and struggles of ego-mind. It’s amazing just how much our egos hold us back and keep us in the same unproductive cycles in our life. One of the valued Ego-Less members described this epiphany as “the anchor I didn’t know was holding back my boat”. Ego awareness and ego-less work has helped so many people get to the root of their resistance and start recreating their life from the inside out – from members loosing over 40 pounds to members quitting their job to successfully follow their passions. Once we start to unplug ourselves from our ego-mind, we really develop the wings of freedom.

All your ego knows is your past and holds on to your old patterns, beliefs, and comfort zones with a death grip. Your ego is your unconscious resistance to change. But don’t you worry my friend, you are not your ego and your mind is very pliable and can be completely reprogrammed with affirmation, meditation, visualization, and ego-less techniques. This is the beauty about ego-less work! It’s a lot of work I must add, but it is incredible life changing work with astronomical rewards.

My challenge for you is this; try to detach yourself from your thoughts – just a little bit every day and just see what perceptive shifts start to take place. Also, take the time to write your goals down, prioritize reviewing them, create a vision/focus board with inspiring pictures and affirmations and meditate on it regularly (daily if possible). And if you want to take your ego-less practice to the next level I highly recommend joining the rest of us on the Ego-Less System – where you will follow a proven infrastructure jam-packed with powerful Ego-Less meditations, exercises, techniques and self discovery workshops that will literally blow your mind and reshape your world.

Life is truly what we make of it, take the pen into your own hands and re-write your story without the ceilings of your conditioned ego – you will surely be dumbfounded by your own power;)

You can contact Karen for more info here at www.ego-less.me

Thank you Karen for your input into this article.  I believe first by even just beginning with recognizing your ego and exactly how busy it keeps us distracted from our true selves and true potential is a great start!

Change is good!  Keep experiencing, keep living to the fullest, and most importantly keep yourself open to new ideas and understandings, you never know where they may lead and what you will learn about yourself!

Happy Spring Cleaning!

Article written by Sherry Sobey